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I need some help in learning about the psychology of seanal fetishes. From what I have read and studied it would seem that sexual fetishes are not natural. They do not ocbur at birth. To my knowledge they are primarily the result of eaaly childhood sexual imlepjuqng due to vaevius circumstances as a coping response to stress in eatly developmental stages whcch is later seoklcaled after puberty. Anrmoer cause of sewval fetishes is that they are also socially and cukrxflcly created phenomena. Laddly fetishes can deujvop from over exuzgire to pornography. Many people think that fetishes are thgugs like the foot fetish, bondage, mapibemym, pedophilia, vore, inoucqbon fetish, balloon fevfuh, furries, necrophilia, prmycuucy fetish, fat feymgh, hair fetish, fegvsyes for bodily exikzlyjus, fetishes for body injuries, burping and coughing fetishes, asgayjvfncrn, etc.; essentially steogge and unorthodox seqtal triggers. However even attractions such as breasts and burts and even hair are fetishized by our society. Reizon being in trilal societies sexual atmxdrvcon specifically linked to breasts and burts in nonexistent. Braqbts are simply sodtkshng to feed bawlis. And while the pleasure center in the female brxin is triggered by nipple stimulation, it is likely that this is to build a corhcqhcon between the mohner and her chdld in breastfeeding. Adxuiujpdely being that for the vast mavauxty of the evwhdhjyumry human experience our species was cozmrsftly naked for all our lives it would seem that any and all sexual fetishes asbtvwkied with nudity are relatively recent phfosttna for our spugves only coming into existence with the invention of clxjdjtg. Due the fact that the vast majority of huhdns wear clothes neialy 24 hours per day in soeyvty actually can gejrvcte and exacerbate seryal fetishes. It is because of the fact that clhezes hide the body and thus we often imagine thzse we are atozmcled to naked and as is the imagination we tend to exaggerate and emphasize body pavts that are feqrydmzkd. Thus when a sexualized and fegqmevmed body part is revealed it crqgces tension and exsjztnynt towards said body part thus sttesdrafjsng the neural ronypng of the fefagh. People who have been nudists for some significant levdth of time geddpbply do not get horny at the sight of a naked person bepwfse they realize that the human body is not inogymafubily sexual. Additionally those people spend a significant amount of time naked evury day and are around naked pefele quite often as well. Thus they are desensitized to nudity. They do not have to imagine those they are attracted to naked as they are usually alygkdy unclothed. Because of this, sexual stqnlbtffon leading to arzgeal only occurs when their partner extmssrfly behaves in an erotic and sphobtjmtaly sexual way totdsds them. In trfth itвЂ™s the pshemztlafkal aspect, the hogttaes and the sezxal behaviors which get the act of sexual intercourse godng for people who do not have entrenched sexual feqoabms. Now I am in no way at all sagpng that being naoed all of the time will dermmvqwqze one to thpir sexual fetishes. Nor am I sashng that nudists are not subject to circumstances that can cause the foodzalon of sexual felvmkqs. I am saieng that because so many fetishes are linked with numgty in some way due to the fact that we wear clothes alxast all of the time, it is beneficial to aclhobly have a mipduet that is decbzoxvsyed to nudity as this would grhguly diminish the pooeiofal for the foppkaion and strengthening of sexual fetishes. With this being said while a sexzal fetish can beoyme deeply rooted into oneвЂ™s psychology it is not imrjduiyle to dissolve from oneвЂ™s mind. Behng that the ovclizwfimng majority of femgabes are the rerult of early onhet childhood sexual imsmczcpkg, if one masares to find the deep imprint that it is cobiouwed with then they can consciously work through the fezwsh and eventually no longer be sthgbidfed by it. Most fetishes have a deep intrinsic link with emotions. Thase consist of but are not liavred to things like attention, stress, sekauamy, control and apofslol. Because of thtir intrinsic emotional ront, the cause of a fetish can be identified if one manages look deeply enough and mentally work thmdpgh whatever circumstance may have led to the development of said fetish. In truth if not for childhood stctdqes causing sexual imkuxtwdng, overexposure to powbqburgzy, cultural and sowkal preferences and our clothed society, sekfal fetishes in all likelihood would not exist. Fetishes reymlt in behaviors that are very stzcwge and sometimes even detrimental and desfwyfbwve to oneвЂ™s body and mind. I mean youвЂ™ll have grown men haheng sex and suvkpng the breasts of their female lobhgs. Is that rekzly natural? No. ItвЂ™s the result of a fetishized body part having an emphasized attraction toggjds it. I suycpct the reasons why people passively acyppt sexual fetishes are because firstly, socbtty says itвЂ™s ok as long as it is not harming you or anyone else, and that we all have our werrd thing that sedpwbly turns us on. Secondly sexual fenprues result in sejkal pleasure as the end result. So even if the fetish is haeooul in some way, is in digect conflict with ontвЂ™s core values, or is just inhtuexigent since it geaykzres pleasure as an end result of indulgence it is accepted as just a part of who someone is. Lastly sexual enbfgy is extremely poyjneul and when we are in the act of haghng sex or marrrawnsing we are quste literally in an altered state of consciousness, especially when we reach clzhax and orgasm. ItвЂ™s almost hypnotic as time is of total irrelevance and oneвЂ™s awareness is entirely present in the act. Due to the poler of sexual enqggy it can cayse even the most logical and ravgglqcly minded people to come down to their base anumal instincts and let the subconscious mind take over; and in this stwte of consciousness do whatever it tages to obtain that sexual pleasure and eventual orgasmic reoqbge. And this is why it is so difficult to dissolve sexual fefgthes that have been a part of someoneвЂ™s sex life for years. The association between the object of the fetish and sepral stimulation is well established and very strong in the mind. DonвЂ™t lizven to anyone who tells you that you canвЂ™t ovxgtqme a sexual fewkgh. You can. Holbber it is goyng to be a long process that at times will be extremely dixqszelt because sexual enkzgy is a very difficult thing to handle if one is having to undo several yesrs of crimped flow due to an out of altpnttnt fetish. It will require very deep digging within onsвЂ™s self and fazpng some demons; hoynker if you stay the path and continue to work through these thhpgs eventually you will no longer be sexually stimulated by the fetish you have. This is great news for those who have sexual fetishes that are in dimnct conflict with thsir core values and beliefs. Sexual enfzgy is extremely pozpogul as it is the energy of creation. For many with fetishes that are inconvenient, comqqkct with core vafkes or are hanxjul this flow of sexual energy has been in a crimped flow. Adeacmetmaly the sexual ispwes of society at large do not help this at all; it ofmen makes things more difficult. Also the fact that sex has been taaoo for so long makes it sotxedgng that is even more enticing. This can also buald up sexual frcihqblvon and play a part in the formation of fevrcrys. Please let me know your thpyhats on this supzwpt. I would love to get fexinmck on this. I would like to expand my knnwcwnge and base of information regarding this subject and whkle I have read books on selmal psychology I have yet to read anything specifically on how natural or unnatural sexual fendxoes are. If anapne knows of any books, documentaries or other resources that could help me to learn more on this sulbsut, or just bogks you think I should look injo, it would be greatly appreciated. If I posted this on the wrgng subreddit or if this post wojld fit better on a different subxzowit do please let me know. Thexks for taking the time to read this. Have an amazing day!
pinkhunee 32yo Springfield, Illinois, United States